Easy ways to initiate contact with a possible mate

Online dating apps are a great way to get into the dating game. But to use it, you will still have to meet and talk to new people. Initiating that first conversation is the most straightforward and effective way for you to make contact with a possible mate. If you just look at their profile and don’t do anything to create a connection between the two of you, then nothing will ever happen.


Don’t be shy

Being able to take action and connect with a person you may like through your online dating site can be a bit nerve-wracking, especially if you are already shy to begin with. To raise your success rate, you shouldn’t hesitate! You will have to take that leap if you really want to meet someone.  So how do you start the conversation? Here are a few simple ways to do so:

It starts with saying the right word

Initiating contact with the person you are interested in getting to know doesn’t have to be too complicated. You can just say, “Hello!” Then, introduce yourself. Ask them how they are and ask if they wanted to talk. You don’t have to come up with a cheesy one-liner or have to plan an agenda on why you suddenly want to talk to the person.

Ask questions about them

One of the easiest ways to get a response from someone is to ask them about themselves. It is also a great way to show them that you are really interested in getting to know them more. Asking them about what their interests are, what they think about a certain subject, and so on, is also a good opener to a conversation. If you can’t really think of anything to say, let them do the talking.

Compliment them

If you can’t think of anything to say to initiate the conversation, try giving your possible mate a compliment to initiate contact. Flattery can take you a long way and also start things off with the other person smiling. Be sure not to gush about them too much so you won’t seem too willing, but just enough that they know you’ve really taken notice.

Establish rapport

When you look at a person’s online dating profile, there must be one or two things that would catch your attention about them other than their pictures to make you interested in establishing a connection with them. You can start a conversation with them by touching on things that you have in common to establish a rapport. You can use what they have shared in their profile to initiate contact on a subject that is clearly familiar to them.

Ask their opinion or recommendations

Another easy way to organically open up a conversation with a possible mate is to ask them to help you out with something. It can be anything that you think will be relevant to what you’ve found out about them in their profile. If they are into music, you can ask for their recommendation about an album you think you might want to buy. Either way, it gives you a great jumping-off point for talking to them again and creates that initial contact that can mark the beginning of something more.